Many of us have heard of the wonderful story of Cain and Abel introduced in Genesis 4 stating “Am I my brother’s keeper?”. I truly believe there is so much to learn from this story, but today’s focus will be on SISTERHOOD. Oftentimes, when you hear the word sisterhood, you either think of sororities, cliques, female organizations, etc. But there are also many that will cringe at the thought of sisterhood. I truly believe that God designed SISTERHOOD to be a beautiful concept filled with women that empower one another.
So the real question here is “Why do many women struggle with SISTERHOOD?”
- PAST HURTS AND STRUGGLES. So many women have been wounded in the past by other women they have confided in for many reasons. You hear statements like “I don’t trust females”, “I only have male friends”, “females are catty”, etc. When women are wounded from past hurts, it may be difficult to form and build healthy relationships with other women. At some point, you have to be willing to let go of the hurt and pain to freely enjoy life. Sis, everyone is not out to get you or harm you. Pray for healing, but also discernment on who to confide in with difficult situations.
- UNFORGIVENESS. The issue of unforgiveness makes it difficult for many individuals to move forward and trust again. Unforgiveness causes you to grow bitter and become resentful towards others. Maybe you were offended by a female and not willing to forgive her. Maybe you were offended by a female and said “I forgive her, but I wish she could feel the pain I felt”. Luke 6:28 states Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. Forgiveness is a process and you can do it. Forgive those who hurt you, but also pray that God blesses them. You never want your blessings and/or prayers blocked as a result of unforgiveness.
- GOSSIP. You either have gossiped about another women and/or have had someone gossip about you. Gossip separates close friendships and creates friction. Proverbs 10:21 states The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of judgement. It’s very important to EDIFY one another. If you have ever gossiped, repent and ask God to change your heart. Pray for those who have gossiped about you and continue to show them mercy. Create boundaries in regards to those who may be chattering fools. Use your words for wisdom.
- JEALOUSY. So many women struggle with being genuinely happy for other women. Do you desire to have what another women have? Let that inspire you, but don’t let it make you bitter. I truly believe one of the roots of jealousy is a lack of SELF-ESTEEM. Remember, you are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God. You have so many gifts and talents that are uniquely made just for you to be a BLESSING to others. Don’t be jealous of another women because of her degrees, big home, marriage, children, her purpose, her physical features, talents, etc. If you are struggling in the area of self-esteem, I suggest you speak WORDS OF AFFIRMATION over your life.
SISTERHOOD CHALLENGE: From this day forward, make it your duty to build sisterhood with other women. Edify one another, support one another, compliment one another, avoid gossip, inspire one another, motivate one another, speak up for them and their reputation, be gracious towards one another, be transparent and vulnerable, pray with one another, worship with one another, forgive one another, serve one another, bear their burdens, encourage one another, correct one another out of love, but most importantly, LOVE ANOTHER UNCONDITIONALLY.
*Remember starting November 1rst, Far More Precious will be starting an 8-week online bible study series on the Great Women in the Bible. There will be a weekly bible study post/challenge on the great women in the bible. Far More Precious will also feature extraordinary women in our community that are PASSIONATELY PURSUING THEIR PURPOSE. Far More Precious is excited about building sisterhood with women.